My family took over my vacation plans for my favored sister and her kids, but this time I had a quiet escape plan of my own. I needed perspective because this family predicament had been building for decades. I am Elizabeth, a thirty-five-year-old woman who grew up in what looked, from the outside, like a typical suburban Massachusetts family: tidy lawns, clapboard houses, school fundraisers, winter coats piled by the mudroom door, and parents who smiled politely at church bake sales and Little League games.
Inside our house, though, one pattern shaped almost everything. My older sister Kate, now forty-two, was always the golden child. Our home felt like a monument to Kate’s life for as long as I could remember.
Every wall seemed to hold another framed certificate, another recital photograph, another award ribbon, another reminder that Kate’s accomplishments were family history while mine were passing footnotes. Every discussion somehow returned to her life, her opportunities, her feelings, her future. My parents were so busy getting ready for Kate’s college interviews that they forgot to buy a cake for my tenth birthday.
I still remember them trying to pass off a leftover piece of Kate’s graduation cake, with part of her name still visible in the frosting, as my birthday cake. As I grew older, Kate’s accomplishments eclipsed every meaningful event in my life. Kate had been selected for the debate team, so my parents barely noticed when I made the honor roll in middle school.
Kate needed to tour a college campus, so they missed the ceremony when I won a local painting competition in high school. After a while, I learned not to expect real celebration from them. When I shared something important, I usually got a brief, distracted, “That’s nice, dear,” before the conversation swung back to Kate.
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