I took no offense to their questions, some of which were…

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In 2014, I got a scholarship to study in Canada.

The scholarship covered my partner, too, so I took my boyfriend with me. Before we left, he’d wanted to marry me, but my father, a wise man, only agreed to a small ceremony and said he didn’t want me to feel pressured. Before we left, he gave us both this advice: he told me not to sacrifice my education or career goals for any relationship, and he reminded my boyfriend of the same.

The next ten years were tough.

I worked, studied, and supported family back home, but we did it! He now has a Doctor of Pharmacy degree, and I’m a data scientist specializing in machine learning.

We’ve built a wonderful life together, but now, suddenly, I’m “too proud” for their son.

I once overheard a WhatsApp message where his aunt’s husband was advising him to “come back home and find a ‘lower’ woman.” Those were his exact words—only he knows what a “lower” woman is supposed to look like.

Right now, I’m typing this from the balcony of our hotel. I can hear my man and his older brother talking. His brother says he’s surprised I didn’t tell them I’m the entire house!

My fiancé is laughing that deep, sexy laugh of his, and I feel so protected. It feels good to know he has my back!